I would never buy a "designer" purse, even though I could afford one. In the end, the designer name means nothing. A designer purse is still just an overpriced purse and a purse without a designer name can be exactly the same, or better even. If someone has a designer purse they spent $2,000 on, and I go buy a very similar bag of the exact same quality from another store for $150, did I get a different thing? No. Am I "lying" to everyone because people assume it is a designer purse? If that is lying, tons of people are lying everyday about all sorts of things. Dyed hair, makeup, boob jobs, you name it. I have a friend who got a nose job, is he now supposed to tell anyone who ever compliments his face that his nose is fake, otherwise he's "lying"? I don't see why this is so different when it comes to sparkly rocks. Frankly, if I can have the same "designer" product for less cost, I got a fantastic deal! I don't feel obligated to ruin that by telling everyone that my purse isn't designer. Diamonds are the designer purses of the engagement ring world.
Even if it could be considered "lying" to let people assume whatever about my ring, so what? How exactly does passing off one rock for another rock hurt anyone? If someone assumes my moissanite is a diamond and I don't tell them otherwise, that does not effect them in any way. I have trouble feeling guilty for things that do not do any damage to anyone. The only person who should care about what is on my finger is me and my SO. HOW IS IT ANYONE ELSE's BUSINESS? In what way am I obligated to tell anyone what my engagement ring is made of? It's an engagement ring. It means that I am engaged. That is all anyone is privvy to.
If someone actually has the audacity to ask me if my stone is real, I will scoff at them and tell them it is (Hey, it's a genuine moissanite, not a "fake diamond". It's not even a lie). If they are that rude and materialistic about my engagement ring, they are not deserving of my time or sincerity anyway. The only reason they could possibly care whether or not my stone is a diamond is because they are jealous of the size and beauty of it and want a reason to feel better about their smaller and less sparkly rock (as if the fact theirs is a diamond somehow makes it better next to a more impressive stone). I have no sympathy for them the same way I have no sympathy for someone who bought a $2000 purse. They paid more for less. They should have bought a moissanite too! :)
Yes, I want the look and sparkle of a diamond. I can have a huge diamond that will still allow me to move to a bigger house five years sooner. It's called a moissanite. With moissnite, the size, setting and quality of my dreams is possible without breaking the bank. I am getting the exact same thing someone with a diamond has. No one, not even me, will know the difference. There isn't one. Why should I have to act as though I do not have a diamond when the two rocks do the exact same thing anyway? Sorry, but I am sick and tired of being told I should have do to anything differently just because I didn't fall for the diamond industry's bull.